Deserving |
| Jan Luther, EFT Master |
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| Write down a phrase regarding your deserving. |
| I don’t deserve __________________________ |
| Think about that for a moment. |
| Deserving implies that some are allowed, have earned it while others are not. |
| This tells me that some time in your past, you were taught or observed someone having an experience
that you thought was good or right for them. They had earned it. Or the opposite may have been true, that you had a
judgment about someone receiving something and you felt, for whatever reason, that they did not deserve that, that somehow
they did not merit the reward or award. |
| So if you were my client and this was a pervasive issue for you, I would use a couple of approaches.
The first would be — take me to that experience in the past. Let’s review that experience which anchored this
belief. We’ll use EFT on the decisions and judgments that were made at that time. |
| And then I might look at another time in the past when you did not get what you thought you deserved or
someone else implied that you did not deserve or you felt guilty for receiving something. We would look at all the judgments
made at that time. If you felt guilty, why? What made you feel guilty? What thoughts or beliefs perpetuated feeling guilty? |
| As you look at these pieces of where deserving beliefs come from, you can begin to go inward, you can
begin to explore what deserving has to do with what actually happens. |
| We could spend a great deal of time discussing hard work, effort, striving and how as humans we perceive
or expect that a good outcome can only be received from a good cause. I’ve worked hard for this, I’ve earned it,
I’ve done what it takes. But that is not a universal law. That is a human perception. Because if it is true that I only
get what I have worked for, then we have to buy into the opposite belief which is that if I get something negative, I must have
done something to merit that as well. I earned that. I deserved that. And oh what a can of worms we open when we begin to explore
these very deep but mistaken beliefs. |
| As a mother who lost a child, I would find it hard to look at my life and find the thing I did that would
say I deserved that, that I earned that, that I worked hard for that. So deserving is not a universal truth. Deserving is an ego
perception. Because God and Universe believe we deserve all things. And yes there are deep elements of truth in this that as we
think, behave, we create our experience. But that is generally not where the ego blocks us when we are attempting or desiring to
step out into the world. When we have a goal, deserving is not the issue. It’s — am I willing? Am I committed? Do I
believe this is the right thing for me to be doing? |
| So while we may start with the ego phrase of I don’t deserve to have success in business what I would
really have you tap on is the beliefs behind that statement. |
| KC |
| Even though I may be afraid of my clients because I don’t know what they want from me, I’m ready
to change my mind about this. I’m going to get out of the way and all my
training and my intuition and my wisdom will come through me effortlessly and then it’s between the client and their Higher
Source. And I’m just the vehicle, the instrument. That’s easy. |
| Even though sometimes I get self conscious and close off to my clients, I am ready to see this in a different
way. If I’m self conscious, that’s a little selfish. That means I’m putting the attention on me, not my client.
I want to change my mind about this today. I want my heart and my mind to be open. I want my client to know that it is safe to be
with me, even if I don’t know what to do. I’m there willingly, wanting to be helpful, getting out of the way so that
what Higher Source knows about the client’s needs can just come through me effortlessly. |
| KC |
| Even though I’ve been believing that I don’t deserve success in my business or personal life, I
deeply and completely love and forgive myself for copping out.
Deep breath. |
| KC |
| Even though some part of me wants me to believe that I should not even try and its excuse is I don’t deserve,
I deeply and completely love and accept myself even with this upside down idea.
Deep breath. |
| KC |
| Even though I have this idea and I really think I would like to accomplish or experience this goal, I deeply and
I sincerely love and respect this fear that’s trying to keep me safe from harm and holding me back and I want to release that
today. |
| Top of Head |
| Willing to change my mind today. |
| BE |
| This idea that I don’t deserve good things. |
| SE |
| Of course I deserve good things. |
| UE |
| Releasing this mixed up idea that I don’t deserve. |
| UN |
| But deserving plays a small part. |
| CHIN |
| In my going out and accomplishing my dreams. |
| CB |
| If I’m willing to do what needs to be done, |
| UA |
| Then I deserve.
Deep breath. |
| Top of Head |
| Releasing this confusion about deserving. |
| BE |
| It’s a “de–service” to myself. |
| SE |
| I get caught up in this word deserve. |
| UE |
| It’s an oxymoron. |
| UN |
| To “de–serve” means to undo before it’s even done. |
| CHIN |
| It means to take away. |
| CB |
| These ego words. |
| UA |
| Releasing confusion about deserving. |
| Top of Head |
| Willing to do what it takes. |
| BE |
| Willing to do what feels right. |
| SE |
| What feels right in my heart, |
| UE |
| May receive argument from my head. |
| UN |
| But that’s probably a good sign. |
| CHIN |
| My heart knows best. |
| CB |
| Releasing that I don’t deserve. |
| UA |
| Releasing this idea that I don’t deserve. |
| 9 Gamut spot |
Close eyes
Open eyes
Eyes down hard right
Eyes down hard left
Circle eyes around top of head
Reverse eye circle
Looking forward, hum
Count 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
Hum |
| Relax your hands. |
| Look at the phrase you wrote down, the idea that I don’t deserve ___________________________. |
| If there’s still energy on that, go back and explore what false beliefs are pushing
your buttons and depleting your energy. |
| I wish you peace. |
Hugs,
Jan |
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